Our first child spoiled us. We had heard the stories about the terrible twos and were rather worried about what they would bring. Partly because Ryan has always been a rather easy going, happy little boy and we hated to have that change. The other part was well, if that many people brought up the terrible twos, it must be pretty bad.
As we entered the twos with Ryan very little changed. At least, very little changed regarding his temperament. At that age of course there were all kinds of changes going on, but he remained an easy to get along with little guy. The worst things about age two that stick out to me were dinner times (he was a very picky eater and we tried to get him to try some new foods with little hard won success) and the time after our daughter Anastasia was born and he regressed a bit to get more attention.
The same can not be said about Anastasia though. Admittedly, she has always been a bit more temperamental than her brother, so I guess I shouldn’t be too surprised. While Ryan tends to mope, pout, and act sad when upset; Anastasia has always had a bit more temper to her when she was upset. So needless to say, now that we’re entrenched in the twos, it has been some hard going.
If you look at some parenting websites, they’ll say that the terrible twos aren’t really a thing and that all ages have their unique challenges. That may be the case, but it certainly has seemed that two has been rather difficult for us. The crying over minor issues, that even a couple months ago she wouldn’t have cried over. She can cry over these issues for so long, even after being comforted, that she forgets what she was even crying over.
This doesn’t even include her being contrary, trying to find countless excuses to not go to bed, or thinking that “I don’t want to” or “I can’t” is a valid response to everything and anything she doesn’t want to do. All together is just becomes rather exasperating. It’s extremely hard to be patient through countless fits that seem to bleed together into one never ending fit.
Even worse, is that I kind of hate feeling so flustered by the whole thing. It’s not like she can’t be adorable. In fact it is quite possible to go from adorable to frustrating and back again a number of times a day. This is better than the days that seem like she’s done nothing but throw fits, but at the same time it just makes it hard to know exactly what to expect.
It’s not all bad. There are days where she is more happy than frustrated and frustrating. Also both of our kids are typically good in public, thankfully, so we haven’t had to worry about too many public meltdowns. These are the good moments, but sometimes those good moments feel buried by the times that aren’t so good.
The terrible twos may not really be something that every kid goes through, but it certainly seems to describe what we’re going through at the moment. As much as I don’t want my kids to grow up any faster than they already are, I will be happy to be past this time and hopefully be moving into more stable times, at least for a little while.